>>54174 (OP)
fetlife, /soc/. or wait for a service to fill the void.
>>54198
Not true. Craigslist has been my go-to throughout my relationship life. In 2010 I met a woman in her early 30s who acted like a non-verbal toddler. It was a lot being only 24, but it worked out good for my first outing with someone involved in this sorta thing.
A few months later I met my gf who had no knowledge of abdl. I waited another six months and she hit every note in my book. Still together til this day.