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>it seems like whenever I ask one of my partners what their interests/kinks are, most respond by disconnecting.
Sounds like a case of "needs better partners"
>but I think this comes off as lazy,
Then start by listing your own kinks, with some sort of "tell me which you like and what yours are" prompt.
>or perhaps my partners don't have a lot of experience and expect me to set up the roleplay for them.
Posting your own with a prompt to pick ones they like from there and share theirs should help this too.