Lately, I haven't really been able to do anything with my butt. Years ago, fingering seemed easier, but nowadays, I have relaxation problems. Even after playing with it for a while, my second sphincter remains closed most of the time, so I sometimes give up. I'm not sure why, but the skin around my anus has been feeling sensitive for a while now, and not in a good way, it's like it's drenched in acid and constantly strained.
A few days ago, I managed to insert my toy, but I didn't really enjoy it. I barely felt my prostate and while the masturbation enhancing effects were noticeable, it wasn't exactly mind blowing. At no point did I manage to actually make the toy feel comfortable, so I took it out after a while.
I've been thinking of replacing my current kinda shitty toy with an Aneros, since those are being hyped right now, but as things currently are, I don't think even a toy that small would work. Any tips of getting back to a more positive relationship with my butt?