No.336625
How many of you here are in a LDR?
Do you think it's worth it and has it ever worked, and is it possible to having meaningful relationships without ever meeting eachother?
Looking for general advice and stories from any of you currently long distance from your boyfriend.
No.336636
I'm a retard who keeps believing it will work but every time it always falls apart. I'm always the one getting dumped, though. I've never had a long distance thing end in me being the one that ends it.
;-;
No.336638
>>336625
I've been in two. Honestly it works well enough if you two both plan to meet at some point. If you're just fucking around online and flirting I wouldn't think it would hold up for any amount of time.
No.336646
A very good friend of mine was in one for a long time. I saw the pain it brought him and I don't want to make that same mistake.
No.336647
>>336636
>I've never had a long distance thing end in me being the one that ends it.
I've had pretty much the exact same experience, probably because I'm kind of a tomoko-level piece of shit. Nobody wants to deal with my wallowing in self hatred and general awkwardness. I still have some hope for some caring guy to come along and at least tolerate me, but that'll probably never happen.
No.336652
>>336625
> is it possible to having meaningful relationships without ever meeting eachother?
Nope. Sorry senpai.
You at least have to hope and dream of meeting the other person.
No.336665
>>336647
What kind of stuff are you into, anon?
>>336625
>without ever meeting eachother?
See >>336638 and >>336652 . I didn't notice that bit when I made the first post. Why would you not meet each other? I mean I get circumstances can make that take a long time, but isn't the end goal to be together in person?
No.336671
>>336665
I play the vidyas on occasion, I like to dabble in art, I also enjoy woodworking and metalworking, and just tinkering with stuff. Essentially I'm a jack of all trades.
most of the time I just get high and fall asleep though, I really only get to actually do shit on the weekends since I have like zero time off from work during the week.
No.336680
>>336625
>Do you think it's worth it
I can't say if it is or not, nor can anyone. But it's something you gotta be willing to try.
>has it ever worked
Sadly no, well at least for me. Two different lifestyles and no direct connection made it fall apart.
>is it possible to having meaningful relationships without ever meeting eachother?
This depends on what you look into a relationship and how you guys are gonna deal with it. Say if it's an open relationship, where you have each other online plus with someone else offline. If this is your thing and it's okay, I guess it would work out. But if you're looking for comfort and skinship, I am gonna say no, a LDR is not meaningful for such.
No.336696
I've been in a few and they've all ended badly, people want to believe that it can work but the reality is only one out of thousands do.
If you are both dedicated, distance isn't that bad or one has enough money to travel whenever then there's a possibility it can work but if you come under none of this there's no point wasting your time.
>tfw one relationship irl
>it was a joke on their end
>heck
No.336730
>tfw American
>the US spans the continent
>people are always very far away
>live near a major city yet so lonely
I'm doing my best in an LDR right now but a variety of factors make me contemplate ending it every day. It's so hard though, I love them but I've never met them in person, and won't for at least a few more months. And then we'll have to go home, of course.
No.336756
Out of all of the LDRs I've seen friends in, I've seen two (UK-IRL and US-URL) last >2 years, and one (DEN-US) that really looks like it's gonna work and probably end in one emigrating to live with the other. Mind that the latter is the only LDR I've personally seen where both were over 18.
Honestly it really depends on whether you're ready to commit to that kinda thing and whether you have good communication. The last LDR I was talking about, they are so insanely in love and committed it's actually unbelievable. They buy each other stuff, talk all the time about everything…
Personally I'd be willing to give it a try if I met someone who I loved, had a good gut feeling about and knew they wanted the same. That is hard af to come by tho :'(
No.336779
Currently in one with a boy who doesn't seem all too interested in me lately. We are a perfect match on paper, nothing I would change, but I guess it must be either a lack of attraction on his part of frustration with the distance. He just threw away a chance to see me even, but I have a growing feeling he is just an attention whore type. Of course.
Either way to answer your question, it can work definitely. But it takes a strong attraction from both sides and eventually meeting just to keep things going until both sides can meet for real and make something lasting.
No.336792
>>336665
>Why would you not meet each other?
We do want to meet each other but there are factors preventing that atm so it might be a long time (1 year+) before we could meet.
No.336801
>>336792
You have to be realistic anon. Are both of you accepting of that fact?
No.336806
I've been talking to someone for 3 years. I've been saving myself for him, but I know he's fucking other people. But I don't want to just stop talking to him. Just life is tough and I'm incapable of meeting anyone here. I don't think I'll ever get to see him in person though.
No.336813
>>336806
Sorry if I'm jumping the gun, but that really sounds like you want something monogamous while that guy just wants to fool around :(
No.336814
>>336806
I'm with >>336813. Plus, it's been three years…that's a really long time.
No.336815
>>336813
>>336814
Maybe, but the term fooling around has a negative connotation that I don't think fits the way he is. Just he's been kind to me, genuinely so. He's also encouraged me sometimes to seek others too, so he doesn't have some grip over me. Just I personally would feel so bad doing so. He's been one of the only few people I've been able to open up to, and it just sucks knowing I'll never see him.
No.336819
>>336801
I've been alone all my life so waiting another year or so I can handle but I worry about losing contact and spending less and less time together as the months go by. It's hard to find activities to do together and things but we still talk daily and very much want to meet.
No.336820
>>336806
>I've been saving myself for him
>but I know he's fucking other people.
Anon, wtf?
>He's also encouraged me sometimes to seek others too, so he doesn't have some grip over me.
So he rejected you?
No.336821
>>336819
If you're both still really into each other, then you have literally nothing to worry about.
No.336822
>>336819
I can't really help you that much with the losing contact thing. That's basically what all my issues were unfortunately.
No.336827
>>336671
What kind of vidya? Not too keen on the getting high bit, though.
No.336839
>>336820
>Anon, wtf?
I know, it looks bad putting it that way. But I couldn't imagine it being anyone else. I couldn't imagine just fucking random people.
>So he rejected you?
No. We've spoke about meeting for years. Just I don't think it will ever happen.
No.336840
It's easy if you're in the same country. Unless you're in a large nation like the US. It can still work if you're in the same state or state right next to the other. It's impossible for it to work while on opposite ends of the earth.
I miss you, Nicole….
No.336841
>>336839
>But I couldn't imagine it being anyone else.
Well clearly he can.
>I couldn't imagine just fucking random people.
Clearly he IS.
>No.
That means you are either delusional, or you are a LITERAL cuckold. Re-evaluate this situation, anon.
No.336843
>>336841
I went into this knowing it wouldn't be exclusive on either end. I'm not like him in the way that I can just fuck random people though, partly because I am unable to irl. I'd just rather have my first time with him, because if I just gave it away to someone else I don't think I'd be able to be okay with that.
No.336844
>>336843
Why? How is giving your first time to someone who doesn't give a fuck about you or value that in any way whatsoever something to look forward to?
No.336845
>>336844
That's just untrue though. As I posted earlier >>336815 he cares a lot in ways that I know he genuinely does care. I don't want to get into the stuff we've discussed, but it's heavy and no one else would have put up with that had they not cared. Just I'm afraid I'll never see him in person.
No.336847
>>336844
Don't be a sourpuss anon. Let >>336845 be happy.
No.336848
>>336827
I've been playing a lot of doom recently. I used to map for it a bit but I kind of lost the patience for that since making just one map can take like 60 hours. I also really get into squad based tactical games like jagged alliance and silent storm on occasion. Generally I end up playing those like it's my job for a while and then dropping them until I start up again though. I also pick up osu and play taiko on occasion.
But if you don't like smoking and moderate drug use I am not the person to be around. I smoke a fair bit if I'm sitting around somewhere where I can, and I enjoy cigars whenever I can afford them and get my hands on the ones I like. Like I said before, I kind of have a bit of a self destructive streak. That being said, at least I'm lazy about it, I don't bother to go out of my way to seek out drugs and the like, but if it's nearby and easily accessible I'll probably do it at least once.
No.336850
>>336847
>let the anon who is posting about how sad his situation makes him be happy about this sad situation
??
>>336845
Maybe he cares about you in a FRIEND way, but very obviously not in a romantic way. It sounds like you think you owe him your ass because he was nice to your or something. This seriously just does not sound healthy, not matter how you try to explain it.
No.336851
>>336850
We've spoken romantically countless times. Regardless, I still can't imagine it being someone else. Both because of my feelings and because I know I'm incapable of making it be someone else, not because of any doing of his but because I couldn't find someone who treated and still does treat me the same way.
No.336852
>>336851
Every post you make makes you sound more and more like an abused housewife.
No.336854
>>336852
He's never treated me poorly though. Through everything he's always been kind.
No.336863
>>336851
He must be very special or you must be very desperate
No.336888
>>336625
i've had multiple, they all treated me like shit
No.336898
>>336625
I've been in 3, two girls and one guy. first one was in highschool, met over PSN. I was a complete virgin and she basically just kept being extremely overly flirty and asking to play games and "talk" on mic all the time. Basically obliged her and ending up going down a 1 year road of being emotionally destroyed in a relationship I didn't even really want to begin with. Wasn't even sexually attracted to her but I was like 16 so whatever. It did fuck up my confidence and gave me perma trust issues though so I thank her for that I guess.
the second was some really cute girl living in peru. Met on omegle and hit it off really well. It basically became us chatting on msn and sending nude pics back and forth and then eventually lewd camming almost every day for an hour+. It was really fun and lasted about 4 or 5 months, I really liked her and she was always horny as fuck and really easy to turn on, but was also a real pain in the ass, controlling and manipulative. I had to constantly put her in check when she would start going off on random shit. I would have probably married her though had I known her irl, that's how stupid and into her I was at the time.
3rd was a guy on psn who admitted to having a huge crush on me which honestly threw me really bad because I didn't see it coming and didn't think I liked guys. I also wasn't really interested in another psn thing. But we were decent friends and he was always nice to me and fun to be around. He always liked to play coop games and wasn't abusive or mean in any way. Always willing to listen to me or talk to me about stuff. He made me laugh all the time and would tease the shit out of me. I blush thinking about some of it to this day. Really was an interesting contrast to go from women who are just so demanding and high maintenance to a guy that treats you the way you were treating girls. He gave me butterflies and we would do all kinds of lewd chat over psn and eventually started speaking on webcam. Didn't last though because he eventually got a girlfriend and basically broke up with me if you can even call it that. I understood though and overall am glad I had the experience.
I won't be getting into an internet relationship again though because it's just too taxing and can be a real pain in the ass. I want to have a real person in the flesh next to me. Someone I can lean on and feel their breath and warmth. It just becomes too emotionally stressful not seeing the person you like/love.
No.336926
>>336863
It seems like a little of both.
No.336927
>>336863
>>336926
I'm not desperate. I have turned down people for sex before, mostly because I didn't want to give my first time to someone I felt nothing for. He really is someone special to me, just it's scary knowing how much time has passed and how I will never see him in person. I don't know how much longer I can do this, but at the same time I feel guilty even thinking this way.
No.336928
>>336927
Why will you never meet him? It's not about sex. Its about moving on with your life. Why keep this up? move on, meet other people? He has no issues fucking other people.
No.336939
>>336927
I know exactly how you feel about having someone special you wish would be your first time. I'm hopelessly in love with my straight best friend who's on the opposite side of the planet. I will most likely never see him in person, but I dream about him all the time and would give up my entire life by just getting up and walking away with only the clothes on my back if it meant I could be with him. And yet I still look for people. You have zero excuse to be restricting yourself to ONLY this one guy who does not care about you. He objectively does not care about you romantically. At all. No amount of mental gymnastics is going to change this. If he cared about you in that way, he wouldn't be fucking other people. NOTHING WILL CHANGE THAT.
No.336979
>>336625
It can work if you find the right person that you're willing to move past that ldr part with. I was in one for two years with someone who was in the same country as me but too far to meet up for a short visit. Looking back it was never going to work due to him not willing to move the relationship beyond a ldr one, after 2 years he broke up with me because he didn't want to be with me so pretended to for the last 6 months of it. I'm in one now that's actually going somewhere, i feel completely different about them to my ex, early on they asked if i was willing to move in with them so long term they knew where this could go and i'm more then happy to do that to be with them. Unlike my first one this one can and is going somewhere, all we have to do now is sort out a visit sometime soon and me not being a goofball and messing it up somehow. Just gotta find that person
No.336984
I really wouldn't. I always told myself not to get into an ldr and then I got attached to this guy on another continent. The first little while was amazing, I had never been that intimate with another person before and I wanted him more than anyone else. We even made plans to eventually have him come out here. After a while though, it set in that it's not going to work, and it hurt. In the long run, he made me feel more confident and eventually pursue another relationship which I would have been too scared of to do before but ripping off that band-aid hurt
No.336990
>>336928
>Why will you never meet him?
Too far away, both too poor to take a flight
>Its about moving on with your life. Why keep this up? move on, meet other people?
Because I can't meet other people. I'm too shy and awkward IRL for people to consider me worth anything. And even people I speak to online usually stop talking to me suddenly. Sure people are fine if they think they are going to just fuck me then leave, but when I want something more they don't try anymore.
>>336939
>You have zero excuse to be restricting yourself
See above
>this one guy who does not care about you. He objectively does not care about you romantically.
I've explained before he does and I know he does (it's really too personal and fucked up to explain why I know), just distance makes it impossible.
No.337024
>>336990
Seems like you have a lot to work out before you can do anything.
No.337025
>>337024
Not even sure what work I need to do. If you met me irl it's not like I can't hold a decent conversation. Just people see me as a friend and not as someone worth more than that.
No.337033
>>337025
Work on your social skills for one
No.337046
My latest long distance is a total disappointment.
It was pretty obvious early on he does't give a shit about me but I was in love and wishfully Ignored it. Hell I still am which is why I feel so bad about it.
This made me reflect do, I cling on to people who don't care about me instead of cutting my losses and tying to find some one to reciprocate my feelings. I pretty much fail at life it would seem.
No.337047
>>337033
That doesn't help at all. As I said before it's easy to get friends, impossible to get relationships.
No.337055
>>336625
I have been at it for almost 4 years. We are almost ready to get a place together.
No.337058
>>337025
god damn i'm the same way. i have a decent amount of close friends, but i don't know how to get into a relationship. how the fuck do you get intimate with someone? i'm scared that it'll make things weird…
No.337059
>>337055
4 years is a considerable amount of time anon. how do you manage to stay intimate and not lose interest over time? I'm running out of activities to do long distance since we don't play the same video games and things.
No.337064
>>336625
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but long distance relationships NEVER work you can't be in a relationship with someone and have no contact with them, don't fucking get into one you're only setting yourself up for disappointment and hurt trust me I know from experience.
No.337070
>>336990
>(it's really too personal and fucked up to explain why I know)
Because it's mental gymnastics and nothing more. He fucks other people. He doesn't care about you like that. End of story. There's nothing more to be said. That's literally it.
>Because I can't meet other people. I'm too shy and awkward IRL for people to consider me worth anything.
This just further confirms exactly what I can already see about you. You're desperate. Move on.
No.337074
>>337064
then how do i get the confidence to meet people irl? my self-esteem is super fucking low and im awkward IRL. i've been trying to work on it but it feels like im getting nowhere. i just want a relationship.
No.337084
>>337074
Looking for a relationship just because you want a relationship isn't healthy. Not trying to be on a high horse here, because I have not come even close to taking that advice either, but it's something to think about.
All the best relationships, if you ask how they got together, they will tell you something along the lines of "we were really close and just kinda slipped into a relationship without realizing."
Ask yourself: Why do I want a relationship? Why will a relationship make me happy?
Any answers you come up with will probably be applicable to just having friends. The best way to get a relationship seems to be just making friends, too. Maybe you suddenly get close with that friend. Or they introduce you to someone they know who you would get along with.
No.337087
>>337074
If you go out looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend you won't find one, they have to happen organically that stupid "love at first sight" meme is a crock sure you can find someone attractive but doesn't mean your going to be together for life.
Look for friends and people you can genuinely connect with and go from there.
No.337100
>>337087
on that note, how do i tell if a guy is gay? some aren't as obvious as others, and i have trouble finding out sometimes
No.337108
>>337084
But if that's the case I'll literally never get into a relationship for the rest of my life. I'm not a social person; I have almost no friends or extended "network" of any kind and don't expect or want one. Given that probably less than one out of FIFTY men my age-group I meet is gay and single, it means the odds are never in my favor in the first place. Without actively dating, it's a complete guarantee I'll never meet anyone.
No.337110
>>337108
>I'm not a social person
You're gonna have to change that.
>or want one.
You're literally never going to have a bf, then. You're definitely not going to have this guy you keep talking about, either.
No.337111
>>337110
>>I'm not a social person
>You're gonna have to change that.
This is the same tier of advice as "just be yourself." It's a type of non-advice. What even is your end goal?
No.337116
>>337111
>same tier of advice as "just be yourself."
How? Humans are, by nature, social creatures. I get where you're coming from a lot more than you probably think. You remind me a LOT of myself up until maybe a year ago. You need to grow up and understand that to get the things you want, you HAVE to interact with people. You can't get around that, because the world is a social place. I guarantee you're just not around the right type of people. You get a whole new perspective on life once you meet people you actually get along with.
No.337118
>>337116
He's right. I used to be the same way.
No.337128
LDRs weren't meant to last
if you keep the distance, 9/10 times you meet and never talk again. it's like a hookup you work months to build & you just feel like shit for doing it in the first place
either close the gap or don't be in an actual relationship with someone you can't be with physically
No.337137
>>337116
>>337118
>You need to grow up
I don't think you understand. I'm >>337025 . I know how to meet people and make friends, but those friends only want to stay friends.
No.337199
>>337137
Then you haven't met the right one yet.
Come on guys - just cus you haven't seen a LDR work doesn't mean it can't, it just takes a good connection and a lot of commitment. Likewise if you haven't got an IRL relationship yet, you just haven't met enough people!
No.337315
What happens when you meet IRL and look less attractive than your carefully choreographed pictures? I always imagine my LDR failing when they see me in person. feelsbad
No.337339
>>337315
It would be stupid to assume there would be an instant physical attraction. You can't just meet IRL and instantly start fucking; you have to spend time together and "date" and become comfortable with each other.
That's probably why a LDR that is all long-distance with only occasional meetings for forever probably won't work out. The only time it will is if there is an expectation that, over a short amount of time, one will be moving closer to the other. Otherwise it's not even a "relationship" IMO; it's just some kind of internet friendship that turns into fuckbuddies whenever they're in town.
No.337373
>>337339
>It would be stupid to assume there would be an instant physical attraction. You can't just meet IRL and instantly start fucking
I don't mean it like that. My worry is he will realise I'm a big fraud and that I look much worse than he imagined because I manipulated camera angles and things to look less disgusting. He's attracted to a different image of me and the real one is trash and will probably make him regret the decision to meet and my face will literally ruin our relationship.
No.337378
>>337373
If you have good angles then you have a good face. Imagine if you had no good angles…
No.337391
>>337373
being self conscious is natural. unless you were super manipulative w/ filters & fat girl angles or only used old photos, it's probably okay. if you're really worried about it, be open with him about how you feel & send a normal pic w/ neutral lighting.
No.337442
>>337373
I would hope he is attracted to you for more than just your body. Otherwise he will just fuck you and dump you and it won't work out, anyway. If he likes you for other reasons, then he will likely look past the fact that you don't appear exactly like you do in videos.
If you're that worried, just do a skype chat or something so he can see you in video.
No.337521
The most important thing in an LDR is communication. After my boyfriend (now ex) moved away for uni, things went on as normal, but we never really communicated our feelings when we weren't face to face, and I feel that was a major reason why it ended. It didn't help that most of his family was against him dating me, either.
We're still friends and we talk occasionally, but I don't think things will ever be like they were before we dated.
No.337528
>tfw 3 years into a LDR while aware the whole time I'll never pull off moving to his country or he moving here
I know I'm not the only one, I just hope I'm the only one that doesn't know what to do about it
No.337532
>>337528
Wew lad. Have you ever met him?
No.338104
>>336806
Resurrecting this thread to provide some advice to a /cb/ in need.
Reading through this thread, I can only really recommend you tell him what you've told us, about you saving yourself for him and what not, and then see if he's willing to commit to upholding those same values. If after three years neither of you can solidify what your relationship is then it's not worth pursuing. It might seem scary, and you might feel you'll lose him, but really, in the end, the worst that can happen is that both of you will know what your future holds. You've said that you have a hard time sticking with others and while i can't be certain, it seems to me that you might be preventing yourself from opening up to others for the sake of one guy, I made this same mistake in high school, and my advice is that, should you make the effort to meet new people, take baby steps towards coming out of your shell. If someone asks you what your favorite ____ is tell them and then elaborate, is it because it's inspired you? You've seen nothing else like? It might seem scary to tell a stranger these sort of things but you have to remember that you're just as much a stranger, and it doesn't matter who opens up first the moment one of you stops being a stranger the faster you'll get along. Anyhow this post is getting too long, so don't lose hope anon!
No.338110
off and on for 4 years, stronger than ever right now~
just booked a hotel room for a 3 night stay
No.338121
>>338110
>off and on
>off
>and
>on
>strong
I wish I had a reaction to express how hard I'm laffin rn
No.338145
>he doesn't love me as much as I love him
>can't let him go because he's perfect otherwise
>it's hopeless, and I can't hide the fact that I'm a whiny clingy idiot
>dying every time I talk to him because feels & lust, but still trying to save this failed LDR
t-t-totally worth it guys, would recommend it/10
No.338152
Just spent the past three days trying to start a conversation with my partner, three days that he didn't have work. Aaaand not a single response. Like I understand that people are going to be busy with their real lives but I constantly feel like a burden trying to talk to him while he's at work, and when he's not at work he's either hanging out with his friends or playing video games and I feel awkward messaging him and going "Hey uhh, is it cool if I join in?"
We were good for like two years, I flew across the country to actually meet him in person and hang out for a week, and then a few months later he got a new job which would give him more time off and it'd be every week that he'd have the time off so it seemed like we'd be able to get to spend more time with each other, but it turned out to be the opposite with us drifting further and further apart until eventually I broke it off with him. Then I tried to keep in contact with him because I didn't want to lose him as a friend and he said we were just in a hiatus but like, I'm not going to move across the country to be with someone who doesn't make me feel valued and he's not going to uproot his entire life to move across the country so like when exactly is this hiatus supposed to end? Sorry, I'm ranting, but yeah. I'm really starting to think I'm going to have to just get out of the relationship and accept that we might not be able to be friends.
No.338184
I know this lovely guy for about two years and a bit more now, we talk for almost every day, we talk about anything and make fun of each other and such, we send pics we show each other alot things, we voice talk for hours, sometimes we end up talking for like about 8 or 9 straight hours. Since i know him it been the best moments in long time, its really awesome to have someone like that to talk about anything and feeling that he cares and same goes to me. We have been planning to meet each other soon, even if its not easy. And even when shit hits the fan and i cant get to voice whit him for x reason i have the best moments of my day whit him, i really really cant wait no more to finnally be whit him for real and cuddle and kiss and cook all do all the stuff we want together, hes the best thing that has happend to me in years.
I absolutely love him and can't stop thinking about him, il cant imagine how happy i would be when we finnally meet up. 100% full homo into him <3
No.338188
>>336819
shes probably just fooling you
No.338208
>>338145
How do you know he doesn't love you as much anon
No.338251
>>338188
>shes
wrong board pham
No.338287
i want to try a ldr. honestly, i just want to feel wanted and i want a cuteboy to talk to. why is that so hard?
No.338290
>>338287
Cause they are all mentally delayed, disrupted.
Or are physically a mess.
I question myself. Does anyone love life on this board? Why is no one happy
No.338291
>be in ldr for a few months
>mutual breakup because we realized it couldn't work long term
>still remain in contact and stay friends
>he pushes me to try and find other people
>everyone feels like a downgrade from him
>finally get desperate and set up date with this guy on tinder
>tinder guy seems nice, he's cute and we're both weeb trash
>still just going out of pure desperation and because I don't want to be alone anymore
>ex tells me that he's actually feeling bad that he couldn't be my first date but also tells me not to feel bad, that he hopes it goes well and that all he wants is for me to be happy
It's not fucking fair, I just want him. And now I feel like an asshole to this other guy who seems perfectly fine but I'll probably think he's shit just because he's not this idealized version of this other guy I built up in my head
No.338305
>>338290
because they are listless
they have no one to talk too, there is no one around them that both accepts and understands them
they are strangers in their own community
the only feelings they can muster to and from the physical people around them is alienation and resentment
No.338306
>>338305
Let me play my violin for you.
Sometimes I think a lot of the people around here just enjoy being miserable. If you've ever been in a relationship or even tried to talk with someone who's constantly wallowing in self pity you know it gets old really quick. Having someone drag you down constantly when you just want to enjoy the little things just becomes bothersome. A lot of people here are their own worst enemies.
No.338309
>>338290
>Why is no one happy
3DPD = Pain
No.338310
>>338306
>I think a lot of the people around here just enjoy being miserable
This is probably true. I'm so dead inside that super depressing shit is the only way I can feel anything at all. That's why I only like sad music. I don't go around telling people "I want to die", though.
People that are happy all the time annoy me because they're almost always the types who just try to tune out anything remotely negative and pretend it doesn't exist. The "ignorance is bliss" life philosophy is far worse than being sad.
No.338313
>>338305
I had this and you know what I did.
I was a nice enough, motivated enough to make new friends. Yes It was a couple years were my only friends were random faces in the street, trees, animals and 2 people online. But I still appreciated that so very much. Always smiling down the street and in bed. Gee, I don't even see people who have it all smiling, and when I smile at them they glare at me sometimes makes me laugh but I always end up feeling bad for them. I'm don't become friends with those unhappy ones that glare at me, why on God's earth would I want to love one of them dearly?
I literally have no were too look for people that enjoy life.
I'm not some psycho that would smile as i hack someone's arm off though. I do feel sad, angry, etc etc
When I am nice to people and try cheer them up they go "fuck off, you don't actually care about my feelings. You're just saying that" I don't even know them that well and they swear at me? It's why I gave up. In the end they are right. I don't care about them too much if they have an attitude like that - in fact I don't think anyone ever will.
No.338323
>>338309
Sadly true.
Impossible to find someone who will accept you for you in this mad world.
Either you're too short, too small down there or not "handsome" enough.
No.338326
>>338323
If someone does not like you because of your pecker or your height. They are horrible people that don't deserve you.
Of course you need looks. Some people aren't into certain looks. But other people are. Also Swedish boys are always cute. Usually have really really shit personalities though. I'd rather a guy with a 2 inch than a bad personalities.
No.338329
>>338326
> Also Swedish boys are always cute
They're but they're also swallow in terms of being loyal or relationship-wise.
Could easily call them size-queens and so on.
But who knows, maybe I have only been unlucky with my dates and always ended up with the worst kind of people.
No.338330
>>338329
No. The are the worst. They know they are cute. They don't care about others feelings. Which is why I said what I said about them.
Are these irl experiences for you?
No.338335
>>338330
Yeah, which is why I am kinda sad and not interested in hooking up with swedish cuteboys.
It feels like they're a copy of our women, feelsbadman
No.338911
>>338184
That sounds cute, how did you guys meet?
No.339549
>>338911
Here actually, some time ago, lets say i find the unusual pearl with this guy <3
No.339558
>>339549
what did he mean by this
No.339565
I actually met my current guy on the thread where you post things you like and your email, By the luck of the draw I randomly picked one of the first one I saw and he liked video games, anime, and he liked playing DOTA, And I said to myself wow! what a unique fellow.
But this is not about how you met.
I'll just post as the questions go.
>I am in a long distance Relationship, pretty darn long too Sadface.jpg
>I think in general if you are on the more unique side it is better and worth it. I think it helps you strive for much more than if it was local because you want to get money to see them and you have that person so you can focus on work and such. Of course you could grow lazy? But it's really depends on what kind of person you and your LDR are. only like 1 in 10 work or maybe less
>So the main thing is it depends, for most people no it will not work and wont ever, be it they need physical comfort, or any number of things and of course when you finally are together that might turn out bad. Just all this just needs paragraphs and paragraphs.
>possible to have meaningful without ever meeting? It is possible but it depends on who you and your partner are. most will say no.
>He and I have been together for i have no clue but more than a year, but i have been in many Relationships, LDR and Normal. This has been my longest long distence one and you really have to be mentally prepared for it,, if you are a needy person i dont think it will work because something petty might happen and ruin the whole thing.
>basicly never hold any feelings back, they arent there to see your feeligs so you need to always be honest, never go to bed angry or sad at them. Basicly like in a real world one show show like 5 times the love and thank them for everything, Another good thing is to make them little things in real life and online to show that you are real and love them.
>I dont know if people will be able to peice what i said together or if they will read any of this so i will stop but basicly it's worth it, it does some times work, it's possible and show your love often. if people want i will tell stories of my Relationships.
No.339590
>>339558
The guy i meet here its not a degenerate.
No.339596
>>339565
>he liked video games, anime, and he liked playing DOTA, And I said to myself wow! what a unique fellow.
How is this unique? This is probably the most bland thing ever….
No.339597
>>339590
This is unique, and 99% impossible
No.339622
>>339596
i think it was supposed to be ironic
No.340071
>>337055
How were those 4 years? I'm really interested in this as well. I'm in one right now and it looks be to like 3 years before anything is going to happen for us to be closer- granted we agreed that we will be visiting each other in those years, when though I'm not sure but at least it isn't just voice chat all the time.
I'm kinda scared since I've never been in a relationship before and he'll be coming around for a visit in the next month. I don't know if I'll handle getting too close and dealing with him going back home or not feeling a connection and hurting him.
For the "straight" guy in the relationship I feel like I have way too many emotions on this