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>And sexual paraphilias aren't? I mean… it can be argued that many fetishes are influenced by culture and society (most precisely the way society sees a given subject). For instance, many argue that "crossdressing and forced feminization" are influenced by the way how society see feminine characteristics on men.
I don't think you can put all fetishes together and treat them all in the same way. Your example pretty much proves it wouldn't work.
It's true that crossdressing is defined by how society views how one gender "should dress", but I don't think it's entirely about that either. If we go on the forced feminization route, I'd argue there's a pretty important part of humiliation that comes with it.
At any rate, the point wasn't that sexuality is a personal thing without any social component to it. I'm not saying you absolutely cannot be influenced by things around you on a sexual level, or that sexuality is set in stone past a certain age. However, there is a clear difference between a fetish that was induced by an experience in your past and being religious because your family is and always was.
A lot of civilizations and cultures have collapsed and disappeared because there was no one left to perpetuate them, and at the same time, homosexuality has been repressed for a while by a lot of people, and it still exists.
> Isn't just a coincidence that there are so many tentacle erotica there in that small corner of the world?
It'd be wrong to think those fetishes are only popular in Japan, I mean, there a lot of people everywhere who are really into that culture despite not having ever set foot in Asia. As for BDSM, it's mostly a scale of the dom/sub relationship, which is a fairly common thing.
But sure, I'd think tentacle porn is more popular in Japan without any convincing required. Although the question I'm asking myself isn't "is there a spread of tentacle fetish in Japan in some way", but rather "how much does culture affect sexual *freedom*". I've never been to Japan, but I think you can buy hentais and loli stuff in the equivalent of comic book stores without getting a second look. However, go to America, and you'll find people sending you to jail for saving drawings depicting girls that look "way too young". Don't know if you heard about that "Kurt Eichenwald hentai drama" a while back, which was basically a guy tweeting a picture of his browser where you could see his favorite hentai, and said hentai was categorized by news networks as "hardcore pornography". However, when I looked it up, it turned out to be some normie shit, especially considering it was made in Japan (or Asia, atleast). The moral is that Kurt had to come up with a ridiculous excuse to explain what porn he likes, while if that had happened in Japan, he probably wouldn't need to explain why he liked it, maybe just apologize for goofing it. Sexuality is approached in widely different ways.
Obviously I don't know for sure if fetishes are more likely (not exclussive, but more likely) to appear in specific regions of the world. All I know is that I'm talking to people who are most likely accross the world, and they're the same as me on that front.
>You are comparing two different things here. Drinking alcohol is an action, having a fetish is a feeling. There are people who are alcoholic and they can't just choose not "liking" alcohol, or not having the desire for wanting to drink alcohol. The same can be said about fetishes. You don't choose to like women wearing diapers, but you can't choose not wanting to engage on that fetish.
These are indeed two different things. Alcoholism is not a choice but a dependency, at the very least. But refusing outright to drink alcohol because of religion, that is a choice. It's not like religious people puke their guts out if they swallow the tiniest drop of alcohol or anything, it's not motivated by "logic" (no triggering intended). How conscious the choice is, that will depend on each person and how they were exposed to religion. I've seen a lot of muslims drinking alcohol simply because they weren't around anyone that would care about it. Some of them would feel bad about it, some of them wouldn't care at all.
Anyway, dependencies are also different from sexuality. They can actually be treated, and they're not universal. A lot of people drink alcohol without feeling any kind of "need" to do so, just like some people will turn into junkies after trying coke for the first time.
With a lot of work and will, you can get rid of a drug addiction, but I doubt trying your best not to fap to diapered women will do you any good. I also highly doubt some people were born with the addiction to a very specific manufactured drug "in their blood", like some of them argue when they fail to stay on the wagon. Being born with a specific kind of sexuality sounds more reasonable to me though.