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 No.48690>>48691 >>48718 >>49014 >>49196 [Watch Thread][Show All Posts]

I feel ABDL people get so closed off to people they don't know and it makes it so hard to try and get to know the person better. I live in a pretty barren New England state so barely any ABDLs live here anyways. I just want to find ways to meet ABDLs but it seems pretty impossible.

 No.48691

>>48690 (OP)

I feel your pain anon but it’s better to have many friends that aren’t abdl than just one friend that is. Don’t risk your career and social life for your fetish.


 No.48704>>48721 >>48827

Consider yourself lucky. This fetish is (and has always been) filled with degenerates and fuckups. Any region with a high density of them will surely burn to the ground. While there are some people that have their lives well organized and put together, it seems to be a very small minority amongst our total population.

Think about this from a slightly different perspective. Could you imagine someone with a foot fetish wanting to become friends with someone else who also has a foot fetish, without knowing anything else about them? Fetishes and kinks are an awful basis to try and meet like-minded people on. None of us chose this, we just ended up with it. Better to spend your time and mental efforts on advancing your career, pursuing your passions, befriending people that contribute novelty and interesting thoughts to you, and living a worthwhile life. Relegate the fetishes to late nights alone when you really need a fap, and leave them there.


 No.48714>>48751

Speak for yourself, man. That's a pretty harsh paint to color a fence with. I mean, I'm not sure where you spend most of your time online trying to meet other diapered folk but my experience has been universally positive.

I agree with the second half of your post there but to call us all degenerates and fuck ups is kinda out of line.


 No.48718>>48728 >>49040

>>48690 (OP)

Don't worry OP, I've met a ton of ABDLs, and the large majority of them are worse in person. Sure, you can talk diapers, but really, it's not glamorous like the internet makes it seem. Find yourself a girlfriend first, she'll make you happier than any natural ABDL will.


 No.48721>>48751

>>48704

>says the fat greasy virgin who thinks he'll stop being a failure if he moralfags hard enough on a anonymous diaper fetish board


 No.48723>>49006

Waw, complaining about not having ABDL-based social interaction.

Will everyone stop being so egoistic and think about me for a second, who doesn't have any social interaction whatsoever.


 No.48728

>>48718

>Find yourself a girlfriend first, she'll make you happier than any natural ABDL will.

This is good advice for people who have a completely normal sexuality with a diaper fetish tacked on.

For some of us conventional sex simply isn't appealing. In that case getting and keeping a girlfriend the normal way is considerably harder and less likely to succeed.


 No.48729>>48731

OP, I've found a lot of success in talking with ABDLs on Twitter. There are a lot of ABDLs and babyfurs who are always interested in talking and hanging out. I've made several very good friends off of online interactions like that. Just follow a bunch of people and reply when they make a post you like, do that enough times and eventually you'll get to talking with a lot of people.

Heck, I met my boyfriend that I just changed into a diaper through FetLife. Internet resources are so important to take advantage of.

Unfortunately it's not an overnight thing. But if you use good grammar and don't try to be a memey edgelord and just be yourself, you'll be able to find people who share your interests and like you.


 No.48731

>>48729

Pretty much this. I met my Wife / Mommy on fetlife. Took a few months of chatting and getting to know each other before we even met face to face, but was definitely worth it.


 No.48732

>being anglo and complaining

You know how hard it is to find ABDLs anywhere else in the world, especially a socially conservative Eastern European country? I wish I could live wherever you do.


 No.48751>>48796 >>48798 >>48801 >>48827

>>48714

>"I agree with the second half of your post there but to call us all degenerates and fuck ups is kinda out of line."

>"While there are some people that have their lives well organized and put together, it seems to be a very small minority amongst our total population."

I'm not calling the entire group fuck ups, just the majority (the "burning to the ground" comment is hyperbole). It's encouraging to hear that your experiences run counter to that though. Based on my experiences on abdl websites for the past 15 years or so, it definitely seems like a significant number among us are emotionally immature or have poor judgement. I've certainly met some awesome people through this, but they've been rare. My point is that if you look at the totality of our history online, there's a disturbing amount of creepy garbage. Deeker, diaper-boys.net, and yior come to mind. The places that have been more social (adisc, reddit) have also had a ton of embarrassing, cringe-inducing behavior.

>>48721

>"says the fat greasy virgin who thinks he'll stop being a failure if he moralfags hard enough on a anonymous diaper fetish board"

You forgot to say whether you agree or disagree with the point I'm making. Do you or do you not think that two people who both get hard dicks from one particular item of clothing associated with bodily waste is a good foundation on which to form a friendship?


 No.48796>>48827

>>48751

>Do you or do you not think that two people who both get hard dicks from one particular item of clothing associated with bodily waste is a good foundation on which to form a friendship?

Can you maybe pretend that you don't have a horse in this race?

Anyway, I'm pretty sure the point is that people feel excluded because of their sexual attraction. Since ABDL attracts a lot of hate from the common idiot who throws around "pedophilia" without understanding english, it's easy to feel lonely and depressed 'cause you feel as though you don't belong anywhere. Therefore you might want to find people who feel the same way and might sympathize with your situation, since they're in the same situation.

Just because you share the same fetish doesn't mean you can't be friends or that you must talk about said fetish all the time. I'm pretty sure it's possible to have every kink in the world and still be a functional social being. If people can't shut up about it, it's their own fault.


 No.48798>>48827

>>48751

>Do you or do you not think that two people who both get hard dicks from one particular item of clothing associated with bodily waste is a good foundation on which to form a friendship?

Why wouldn't it be? Most friendships start because two people have some trivial thing in common - even just being in the same place at the same time. Almost anything can serve as a point of commonality, and if the friendship lasts then that initial commonality will get replaced with much more important bonds of shared experiences and trust.

What kind of massive fucking autist do you have to be to not understand even this much about how friendships work?

Also, in my experience the people who go around getting offended by cringy shit other people do are usually total freaks themselves. If you're feeling guilty about your own disgusting behavior it becomes quite appealing to go around pointing out how everyone else is guilty too.


 No.48801

>>48751

Holy fuck are you autistic. I have several friends into diapers that are completely normal outside the fetish.

It's pretty obvious you're just projecting your own ineptitude and inability to make real friendships offline.


 No.48802>>48819 >>48820

>to call us all degenerates and fuckups is kinda out of line

No it isnt. Subsitituting a real human relationship with a shitty diaper is about as degenerate as it gets. Have some god damn self-awareness.

However we certainly arent all fuck-ups. See the celebrity abdl thread for some successful people (that we know about)


 No.48816

Wow this went off the rails quick. Hey retard, most friends do meet because of similar interests. Have you never had a friend before?


 No.48819>>48827

>>48802

>Subsitituting a real human relationship with a shitty diaper is about as degenerate as it gets.

You're saying this, while simultaneously demonstrating a profound ignorance of even the most basic aspects of how friendships work.

I get that you're wracked with guilt over your "degenerate" fetish, but you don't need to sperg out like a retard and project your insecurities on everyone around you.


 No.48820

>>48802

The way you say this makes it sound like there are a ton of celebrities in that thread who are confirmed ABDL. Out of the ones I'd consider reliable there's some republican politician who pays hookers to diaper him and was found out: kind of fuck-uppy even if was elected, there's Aubrey Plaza, and there's Miley Cyrus whose whole persona is basically being a fuck-up at this point. I don't even think all ABDLs are fuck-ups, but the only one I'd consider to really be not a fuck-up in that thread was Aubrey Plaza (and I suppose she might not even be one of us and is just dropping hints everywhere to troll or out of ignorance).


 No.48827

>>48796

>Can you maybe pretend that you don't have a horse in this race?

I'm not entirely sure of what the implication is here. I'm an abdl too, so as far as how we're perceived as a group, I do have a horse in the race.

>Anyway, I'm pretty sure the point is that people feel excluded because of their sexual attraction. Since ABDL attracts a lot of hate from the common idiot who throws around "pedophilia" without understanding english, it's easy to feel lonely and depressed 'cause you feel as though you don't belong anywhere. Therefore you might want to find people who feel the same way and might sympathize with your situation, since they're in the same situation.

I agree with this completely. I still remember how it felt when the light bulb turned on and I realized that there were other people like me with this weird fetish, and that it has a name. It was immensely comforting. As I've said before, I've met a lot of cool people from my time on abdl websites, and I learned a lot by talking to them. And it definitely makes sense to want to have friends across the full range of a persons interests, so when you're particularly interested in your chinese cartoons one week you have someone to talk to about them, or the next week when a new widget comes out you have a different friend who's really into widgets to talk to.

That being said, I never understood the desire to meet other abdls in person. Admittedly I'm not the most social person, but what do you get from being friends in person with another abdl that you don't get from chatting with them online? Assuming you have at least some irl friends, that is. Put another way, what additional benefit is there in taking that abdl-based communication off the internet and into the real world?

>I'm pretty sure it's possible to have every kink in the world and still be a functional social being. If people can't shut up about it, it's their own fault.

Sure. And this is one of my issues with some abdls - the complete lack of an ability to moderate their behavior.

>>48798

>Why wouldn't it be? Most friendships start because two people have some trivial thing in common - even just being in the same place at the same time. Almost anything can serve as a point of commonality, and if the friendship lasts then that initial commonality will get replaced with much more important bonds of shared experiences and trust.

Fair enough.

>What kind of massive fucking autist do you have to be to not understand even this much about how friendships work?

I have 7 Giga-tisms. Get on my level, scrub.

>Also, in my experience the people who go around getting offended by cringy shit other people do are usually total freaks themselves. If you're feeling guilty about your own disgusting behavior it becomes quite appealing to go around pointing out how everyone else is guilty too.

I've noticed the same thing. However, if you were on my level of The Tism, you'd recognize that my posts have been much less of an offended response, and more of a disgust type response (focused on the behavior of others). People give offended type responses when you call them something mean. They give a disgust response when there's a cockroach in their kitchen.

>>48819

>I get that you're wracked with guilt over your "degenerate" fetish, but you don't need to sperg out like a retard and project your insecurities on everyone around you.

The poster you're replying to wasn't me, I was >>48704 and >>48751. Also, I never said that this fetish is degenerate, but that a lot of the people within it are.


 No.49006

>>48723

Haha me too. I'm your a-typical mid-20s basement dweller. I spent a good 15 hours of the day on the computer and have accepted that I will probably never find happiness.


 No.49014>>49016 >>49017 >>49196

>>48690 (OP)

Where in new england? I'm in CT which seems pretty barren for abdls


 No.49016>>49017 >>49196

>>49014

Not OP but I'm in MA.


 No.49017>>49196

>>49016

Not >>49014 but i am also in MA


 No.49040

You can't find ABDL friends because the odds of finding one, even in a city, that would reveal the fact that they are one to you is so incredibly low that basically you're six ways past fucked.

>>48718

Admittedly, this creates problems all its own because eventually you'll be outed.


 No.49196>>49197

I've had moderate success meeting mostly sane, otherwise-normal individuals close to my own age with Fetlife and Diaper-Bois (depending how many levels of faggotry you're on), but for every one you meet on there, you'll get about ten of these.

>>49017

>>49016

>>49014

>>48690 (OP)

Any of you fellow New Englanders had the pleasure of interacting with this sick fuck? Apparently he hits up every male within a hundred mile radius and any mention of diapers in their profile.

Not sure I've ever heard of anyone who'd like to be "molested"


 No.49197

>>49196

No because I appear like a moderately normal human being when I am in public and I don't swing that way.


 No.49238>>49262

I know I'm probably going to regret doing this. I live in the New England area, New Hampshire to narrow it down a bit. I'm a gay abdl male. I would like abdl friends to hang out with in real life. If none interested, thats fine, I've been doing ok doing this stuff alone ever since I discovered it on my own (didn't have internet a long time ago).


 No.49262>>49265

>>49238

You got a Fetlife or D-Bois account? I'm in NH too and am on like maybe 5 or 6 levels of gay my dude


 No.49265>>49269

>>49262

Yes, I do have a D-Bois account, my name on there is jd2mppmke. Wow, hehe, 5 or 6 levels of gay, I'm not sure what that means but, sounds exciting.


 No.49269>>49273

>>49265

Aye, hate to be a tease like that but you're about 10 years older than me so I'm likely gonna pass. Sorry bruv.

On the plus side, though, try Fetlife if you haven't already. I've been browsing heavy recently and there's honestly a surprisingly large number of diaper boys up in our area. Also a munch in Salem in a couple weeks if you're interested.


 No.49273

>>49269

ah, well, like I said, no problem being on my own.

Yes, I was once apart of fetlife but, didn't work out. I realize there are diaper boys around my area but, they don't want anything to do with me. This is a private thing for me, and wouldn't mind a friend to do this in private with.


 No.49425

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I tried getting one once. Talking to him was like pulling teeth. after about a week or so I gave up. I was always the one that had to start talking and keep it going. None of our other hobbies lined up too. I looked at too many couple photos and it got to my head. I have someone now who's not into it as far as I know, but you never know and if not, fuck it I'm happy anyway.

Good luck OP.


 No.54716>>54719 >>54726

Ok OP here is some advice. Find some person with a lose personality. Ok?

You ask them if they want to play a silly game. It's called play baby. Where they dress up in diapers and act like babies. To be silly.

Show them some funny cute diaper artwork. With silly childhood animated characters like Sonic or Disney. Furry diaper art in diapers first. (nothing too realistic) Show that to them first and ask if the idea sounds good to them later.

If they say yes. Then go right ahead. If they say no oh well. Most likely they will forget about it.

The hard part is getting them to ACTUALLY wear any diaper or actually suck on a pacifier.

I tried offering this to people and they think it's cool. But executing this will be tough.

Warning: Don't get too fresh with your diaper friends.


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>>54716

The person with the "lose" personality? I'm guessing you meant "loose" personality.

I think better advice would be to just take on that personality type yourself. Say what you like, say what you don't like it, do what you like.

Leave a bag of diapers out where they can see it, let their own burning curiosity guide them.

You can tease them along too, be all like, "Oh, you wouldn't be interested in that, that's not really for people like you."

Pass it off as a form of relaxation and role playing fun… stress relief and the like. Don't make it about sex, don't call it a fetish and don't act overly eager about it. Just treat it like it's no big deal and tease them a bit if they treat it like a big deal.

Say something like, "Geez, what the hell did your parents do to you as a child? What did they beat you with wet diapers? I've never seen anyone so afraid of a pair of Pampers before."

If you act like it's a spot of secretive fun and entertainment and something that not everyone is ~allowed~ to do they'll be driven towards wanting to try it themselves. Again, let their own curiosity guide them and don't try and force it on them in any way.

The trick with just about any social situation is to be the assertive one and to flip any negative stigmas or attacks. Someone tries to mock you for wearing diapers, mock them for being afraid or embarrassed by diapers. Someone says they hate you, tell them you're happy to be taking up so much of their free time.

See? Just flip shit around. That's the secret to being assertive. It's easy to be commanding and self assured knowing that whatever anyone says you can flip the perspective around to benefit yourself and what YOU want. Sort of a fun house mirror trick, distort and reflect back any negative perceptions and only allow positive perceptions to pass.

If your friend asks if you're wearing a diaper, flip it right around and say, "Do you want me to put a diaper on you?" If they ask embarrassed/afraid and say, "No." flip it around, take out a diaper and gently take control. Act as the dominant force and treat them submissively. If they're into it, they'll play along, if they REALLY aren't into it, they'll offer some measure of resistance, at which point you can just back off and say something like, "Well I guess this just isn't for you." and then from that point act like it's not something ~for~ them. Like if they ever bring it up again just be like, "Remember when you were too scared to let me diaper you?"

So, like I said, just be the assertive "lose" personality yourself, take control and gently entice them along. You can start off with more pedestrian stuff too, like an adult sized pacifier or with coloring books/crayons… although just as a warning 99% of the people you come into contact with who come across said coloring books/crayons will eventually want to "borrow" them… and by "borrow" I mean… you're never going to see them again.

DO NOT LET THE COLORING BOOKS OUT OF YOUR SIGHT! This is your only warning… do not let the coloring books become compromised!


 No.54726

>>54716

>Show them some funny cute diaper artwork. With silly childhood animated characters like Sonic or Disney. Furry diaper art in diapers first.

Anyone over the age of 12 (and that's being generous) will instantly see that as prime cringe material and hope to the love of god that you're just making fun of it, furfag. That sounds like something a profoundly autistic babyfur would do while being oblivious to the repulsed reactions of their surroundings.


 No.54730

I found my wife / baby in a fetish chat-forum.

Fortunately she was pro-active and asked for my number. The first night we talked for 4 hours. One year later we moved together and now we are married for almost 2 years. It could not be better.


 No.54731>>54740

I can confirm what others have reported.

Most people you meet IRL have serious issues. Extremely easily offended and angsty.

One can make the claim due to the nature of the meetups only those kind stick around.

I gave up after 3 meetups/munchies.

Just because you get off on the same thing does not imply you will get along let alone be friends, in my experience rather the opposite.


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>>54731

Mmmm, I think it depends on the person. Some of my best friends are like… completely antithetical to my own interests/beliefs… but then a large part of our friendship is debating back and forth, so I guess you could say that's a common interest.

But again, being assertive is best. Know what you want and don't be afraid to say it. If you're afraid of your own interests you're not going to have much like finding other people unafraid of your interests.




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