/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover★

What I'm most confused about is, of those who try to represent whatever community this is (don't worry I know it can't be found here) why are they always either mentally unstable or so fallible that they absolutely portray a completely warped or dissociated common sense. It makes sense that this fetish is somewhat becoming more popular but the content of whats mainly seen doesn't change that episode of secret life of women and somewhat so that sextralife episode but even then that wern't exactly positive, most of the stuff coming out is critical of even thinking of such a thing. I'm comfortable wearing one, but hearing about them? I can't even stand it now, it's just too cringe. Around the community is this mindset common or as vilified as the portrayal?

>>47198 (OP)

>Is there any moral ground in this?

Sure if you just get off to this privately like a normal person with a fetish there's nothing to really feel bad about. Really I think people who legitimately have these regressive feelings deserve pity. This sucks. This pain of your sexuality being so conflicted and just wanting to be little and cared for. That kills me on the inside and i feel so bad for other people who feel like this and so happy for those who figure out how to live a normal life while being able to come home and live a comfortable double life. This is a fucked up painful affliction to have. We're not doing anything wrong by thinking like this either. We're not pedos. I am not a god damn pedophile. I'm the oldest child in my family, i've changed my brother/sister's diapers when they were little. That was never a sexual thing nor did it bring about these feelings. Like, it has nothing to do with actual children. All thinking about actual children does is make me feel bad for feeling this way. I would never want to be around children while diapered or anything like that. It just reminds me that i'm fucked up and that i can never truly regress. And I think most of us littles have similar feelings.

>It's hard to feel even slightly validated when everyone who isn't apart of this is adamantly against it

We are fucked up. The best life advice I ever received was that nobody is going to care about you especially if nobody ever did, and that's especially true for us. Don't ever expect sympathy for your problems, or anyone to care about you in this way. Even if you find a partner or a friend who you can indulge with you can only ever fake it. So don't look for validation, don't even think like that. You have to be confident in your normal life enough to be a little when you're alone. You really have to commit to being a big boy so you can regress when you want to. The problem with these cringy people you see is they try and make this part of their everyday personality. They end up having the worst of both worlds being a disgusting lunatic in our community and in the real world. Acceptance doesn't mean going 24/7 or building a nursery, nothing against people who do that though, it's about understanding what you can do to make yourself comfortable.

>>47199

Just ignore them. It doesn't even matter what those people do. Unless you plan to "come out" as a diaperfag don't worry about it. All they're doing is embarrassing themselves. There's no reason for any of this to be public cept to laugh at it. Which I do too. Pamperchu is hilarious and i thought Mister Metokur battling with FA was especially funny because i have extra insight into just what a lunatic Babystar really is.

You can feel validated by the fact that you're not a pedo or a creep or anything along those lines. I keep saying to people, it doesn't matter what you're into, there are always going to be people that will think you're weird for it. Best not worry about it, keep it to yourself or the people you can trust with it, and have fun.

my response to those are usually "literally who." They're no one. Just some TV show, some blogger, or even some anon. Yeah, we get to see the cultural perception of us, fine. If you keep it to yourself, or even don't care about exhibition, it has little to no effect on your daily life. Just another voice in the screaming void.

>>47198 (OP)

It makes us feel good, and that's what's important. It's in our nature to want outward validation, but I think you'll be a lot happier if you become okay with us just being fucking weird.

>>47199

Because the only people willing to get up in front of a camera and tell everyone they love diapers have nothing left to lose. Anyone sane, successful, or admirable wouldn't make it public about themselves.

>>47209

> Even if you find a partner or a friend who you can indulge with you can only ever fake it.

Thankfully have a supportive friend that likes crossdressing gayboys is completely fine with me regressing.

Just doesn't work with normie partners. I just can't stay there if they aren't happy too.

> You have to be confident in your normal life enough to be a little when you're alone. You really have to commit to being a big boy so you can regress when you want to.

This. I stare into that line a lot because I feel so peaceful in my little side. I really empathize with wanting to be there instead of here all the time. But I work hard in my adult life so I can indulge in my other life.

>>47198 (OP)

If you want to be a normalfag, go right ahead. Nothing is stopping you from just leaving the whole fetish behind and forgetting about it. If you don't, that's your choice. What do you want to do?

>>47198 (OP)

Honestly dude, it's not that big of a deal. People are into weirder stuff and AB/DL is on that spectrum quite tame. Sure, we have a problem with creeps and weirdos but what community doesn't? I count myself lucky because I'm not really that into the age regression stuff nor do I find the idea of a woman dominating or "mommy'ing" me appealing - quite the opposite, actually. I just like diapers. Specifically seeing grown women in them. Always have, and always will. But I don't let that define me or my character beyond the fact that I accept is a part of who I am. I could live without embracing the fantasies but that's just denying a part of myself and can be quite harmful in the long run. I trend towards a nice balance between "normal" sexuality and bdsm and the AB/DL stuff. Sometimes I give up this stuff for months, and sometimes I just can't get enough of it. Where's the harm in that?

I do not, and never will flaunt the fact that I have this fetish. To the intolerant or unprepared outsider, it's out of their realm of understanding. Ironically, they probably have something that I myself would find detestable or incomprehensible. We all have our secrets, and not everything needs to be explained. The loli posters should fuck off, to be completely frank. I don't condone it nor do I want it associated with the fetish, but I can't do anything about that.

Look, this fetish is a legitimate sausage fest. The few women who do participate are either scared off by the creeps, harassers and cockmonglers or they're in it for the money, like many on Tumblr. The chances of ever finding one who's willing to explore the fetish together are few and far between, so I suggest you give up on trying to find one. I know that's the real reason behind this post - trust me, I feel the same way. Embrace it in your own time, in your own ways, and you'll be happier. Don't seek validation or approval, unless you really want to tell someone. If you do, make sure you can trust them with the knowledge - hell, you might learn something about them, too. You're not doing anything illegal or immoral. Remember this. You're just weird. As am I. As all of us. And that's the spice of life, ain't it?

>>47198 (OP)

>Is there any moral ground in this? Anything right? It's hard to feel even slightly validated when everyone who isn't apart of this is adamantly against it

You have to spend some time thinking about what your own personal system of ethics entails. What do you consider good and bad in the world? How do you think people should act?

In the end it's up to you to choose whether to get over your self-loathing, live a life of misery while you wait to die, or just get it over with quickly via suicide. Nobody can hand the solution to you - you have to find it yourself. I could tell you how I've found peace with myself, but judging from your post you'd probably reject my reasoning and call me a degenerate.

>>47209

This. I am a long time fan of Jim, and also avoid anything even remotely cringey related to this fetish, even some things that are remotely cringey on this board that totally turn me off from visiting here. I have been into this fetish since I was 16 years old (I'm 27 now) but I've never really acted on it, and kinda feel sad for getting off to people who possibly have a mental disability.

>>47199

I personally believe it is a prime case of integrating the shadow. We have these strange desires with bad social reputations. I was a normie who played football and was well socialized with a lot of friends in HS and in the "in" crowd.

Although on the inside I felt like such a disgusting beta loser for having this fetish. It drove me towards being a disgusting loser almost. Around the age of 21 is when I learned I had to integrate this part of me.

It is not really easy to explain how to integrate the shadow aspects of one's mind. For me it took connecting with other real people that were into the fetish and normal. Once I realized that everyone has something they are ashamed of or did not want to come out, I stopped worrying so much. I became much more confident and rarely even consider it being a problem anymore.

I would say a good first step is to try and connect with people. You will find some really macho guys with fetishes to be sissified etc. Ask any psychologist how strange humans are, or ask if they have ever heard from a random client of this.Humans are weird, we all are. We just put on the mask or persona that we are those alphas you see in the action movies. Realistically that isn't exactly obtainable, you will have flaws, it is nature.

tl;dr As hard as it seems you have to knowingly, responsibly, willfully indulge it fully. At first you will feel as if you can't reconcile, but when you stop considering it a problem or limitation just because, it will stop bothering you.

>>49164

>>47209

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